The Ethics of Caring for Friends or Family


When should you say no?

Fam Pract Manag. 2017 Jul-Aug;24(4):44.

Author disclosure: no relevant financial affiliations disclosed.

Family physicians have the awesome responsibility of providing comprehensive medical care to each member of the family regardless of age, sex, or type of health problem. But does this responsibility include providing health care to your own family and friends?

Many of us have been asked at one time or another by a relative, coworker, or friend for medical advice or treatment, but often we are uncertain about how to handle this type of request. It can be a difficult situation when your sibling asks you to take care of his health condition or a friend asks you to prescribe medication over the weekend when she is unable to reach her physician. Although you may sincerely want to care for them, is it ethical to do so?

Recently, I faced a situation where I had to care for a friend's daughter who was unable to obtain health care because she was uninsured. Although I was able to help her get health care assistance through the state health department, the medical offices that accepted her assistance program were not accepting new patients at the time. She had a health condition that warranted immediate attention, so I decided to see her in my clinic.

A few months later, this patient died due to complications related to her health problem, and I had to inform her parent, who is also my friend. It was difficult not to be emotional with this family, and it made me question whether I should care for friends or family in the future.

Ethics statements by the American Medical Association, the American College of Physicians, and others warn that the patient-physician relationship can be complicated by pre-existing social and emotional relationships.1,2,3 They recommend that physicians first consider alternative sources of care or referrals to other providers and take care of friends of relatives only if there are no other options. Additionally, physicians should treat patients with whom they have a prior nonprofessional relationship only if they have a short-term, minor problem

About the Author

Dr. Eniola is an assistant professor in the Department of Family Medicine at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill and is an attending physician at Moses Cone Family Medicine Residency Program.

Author disclosure: no relevant financial affiliations disclosed.


1. Chapter 1.2.1 of the AMA Code of Medical Ethics. Accessed June 2, 2017.

2. Professional standards and guidelines: treating self, family members, and those with whom you have a non-professional relationship. College of Physicians and Surgeons of British Columbia website. Accessed June 2, 2017.

3. Snyder L. ACP Ethics, Professionalism, and Human Rights Committee. ACP Ethics Manual. Ann Intern Med. 2012;156:73–104.


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