Returning from deployment is a time of expectation, excitement, and change. However, many military families find that the reunion can be more stressful than the separation. Many families go through an adjustment period that can last for weeks or even months. Knowing what to expect can make the transition easier.
These are the phases you might go through when you return home:
- Pre-entry. You may be excited to come home and might spend a lot of time thinking about what things will be like. You plan things to do at home, at work, and with your family.
- Reunion. This is the “honeymoon” phase just after you come home. It is a time for you to reconnect with people and relax.
- Disruption. Problems may come up as you realize how much things changed while you were away. Your family may have new routines, and it may take time for you to adjust. You might be surprised that your family managed as well as they did without you, or feel like they don't need you anymore. It is normal to feel envious or resentful during this period.
- Communication. It is important to talk to your family about how things have changed. You and your family may need to set up new routines. Some things that might need to be discussed are physical changes, finances, decision making, and changes in the relationships with your spouse and children.
- Normalcy. You and your family accept changes and reestablish routines. Even though there may be problems, this transition often leads to unexpected growth at home and at work.
The following Web sites for veterans and their families have information about returning home after deployment:
- After Deploymenthttp://www.afterdeployment.org
- American Academy of PediatricsSupport for Military Children and Adolescentshttp://www.aap.org/sections/uniformedservices/deployment/resources.html
- Mental Health AmericaOperation Healthy Reunionshttp://www.nmha.org/reunions/resources.cfm
- Military Homefronthttp://www.militaryhomefront.dod.mil
- Military K-12 Partnershttp://militaryk12partners.dodea.edu/references.html
- Military OneSourcehttp://www.militaryonesource.com
- National Military Family Associationhttp://www.nmfa.org
- Sesame WorkshopDeployments, Homecomings, Changes http://www.sesameworkshop.org/initiatives/emotion/tlc
- SOFAR: Strategic Outreach to Families of All Reservistshttp://www.sofarusa.org
- U.S. Army Hooah 4 HealthDeployment Guide for Families of Deploying Soldiers http://www.hooah4health.com/deployment/familymatters/reunion.htm
- U.S. Department of Veterans AffairsReturning from the War Zone: A Guide for Families of Military Personnelhttp://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/reintegration/returning-war-zone-guide-families.asp
The following Web sites for veterans contain health-related information:
- Defense and Veterans Brain Injury Centerhttp://www.brainline.org
- Military Pathways Screening Programhttp://www.militarymentalhealth.org
- National Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorderhttp://www.ptsd.va.gov
- U.S. Department of Veterans AffairsBenefits for Returning Service Members http://www.oefoif.va.gov
