Veterans: What to Expect When You Return from Deployment

Am Fam Physician. 2019 Nov 1;100(9):online.

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Returning from deployment is a time of expectation, excitement, and change. However, many military families find that the reunion can be more stressful than being apart. Many families go through an adjustment period that can last for weeks or even months. Knowing what to expect can make the transition easier.

Some phases you might go through when you return home:

• Pre-entry. You may be excited to come home and might spend a lot of time thinking about what things will be like. You plan things to do at home, at work, and with your family.

• Reunion. The honeymoon phase that occurs just after you come home. It is a time for you to reconnect with people and relax.

• Disruption. Problems may come up as you realize how much things changed while you were away. Your family may have new routines, and it may take time for you to adjust. You might be surprised that your family managed as well as they did without you, or you might feel like they don't need you anymore. It is normal to feel envious or resentful during this period.

• Communication. It is important to talk to your family about how things have changed. You and your family may need to set up new routines. You might need to discuss physical changes, money, decision-making, and changes in the relationships with your spouse and children.

• Normalcy. You and your family accept the changes and adjust routines. Even though there may be problems, this transition often leads to unexpected growth at home and at work.